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balloons scare me but i love this idea

what inspires you?

Right people i am asking YOU….. all designers out there what inspires you? i want images i want websites lets collaborate people…

Why am i always late?

I found this article it is very interesting and opens up some home truths.. why are you late? i know why i am what do you think?

“Are you ever late? Does lateness feed you? Do you constantly have people waiting on you? Do you know people who drive you crazy because they are always late? Have you ever admonished someone for always being late? Has someone called you on it?  Here are other ways that lateness communicates. Look at the list for the likely match or combination of matches to your issue.

1. THE RUSH .  Lateness feeds the adrenaline junkie. If you love thrills and excitement, and there are not enough in your life, you may use running late as a way getting your excitement fix. Instead of speeding like a maniac to be on time, give yourself other opportunities to feed your fire. Perhaps tango lessons, skydiving, hockey  tickets or take up boxing.

2. THE TIME-CHALLENGED .  Face it, some people are clueless about time. They just don’t understand that an hour has sixty minutes. They say they will be there in 15 minutes and they arrive 45 minutes later, truly unaware that they are late. This personality might be called the absent-minded professor. They also can’t seem to understand how long an activity truly takes . For example, they think they can wait to leave the office for a meeting 10 miles across town 5 minutes before the meeting. They don’t factor in how long it will take them to get their meeting materials packed up, how long it will take them to get to the car, the traffic on the way and how long it may take to find a place to park. They also don’t allow for the unexpected delays such as an accident on the road. Because they have an unrealistic sense of time, they tend to fall privy to the “one more thing” phenomenon. That is they try to do one more thing before they leave. They check their e-mail one more time before they go down the hall for the meeting. They make one more phone call before they leave the house for the appointment. Because their sense of time is unrealistic, they think they can stretch it and bend it like silly putty. 

I have a friend with a master’s degree in statistics. He calculates statistical formulas for credit ratings. He is a very bright man. He is always late. Talking to him about it didn’t change his behavior. Because he is almost always exactly an hour late, when I need to meet with him at 6:00 I tell him 5:00. He shows up at 6:00. We can still be friends.  The good news is that if these people are clued in about their issue and they want to change, they can. The time-challenged just need to realistically examine their schedule and ask themselves how long their activities truly take.

3. CONTROL .  Lateness is a form of control. If you are consistently late to dinner or appointments because you spent a few extra minutes getting ready or you didn’t give enough leeway for traffic, you may be saying to the person who is waiting: “I am more important than you. You must wait for me.” By making others wait you have power over them even if it’s only the power to make them tap their fingers on the desk, make them order another drink or hold up dinner till you get there. It is passive aggressiveness in its finest form, the invisible attack. People can get mad at you but it makes them look impatient or unreasonably demanding. After all, how are you supposed to control the external world. You can always have an excuse, the phone rang, someone came into my office with a problem, I couldn’t find my cell phone. You have power over everyone who waits for you. In fact, you may actually avoid being on time because it would communicate that you are kowtowing to others.

This form of time use is typically used by people who don’t have power. They are not the Big Boss. They would be uncomfortable doing anything directly to gain power, to ask for what they want., to demand attention. By using a silent command they get the rush of control without the risk of counterattack. Children are the true masters. They can’t find their homework or their right shoe, they need a drink of water, they have trouble with their buttons, anything to postpone bedtime or school.

4. LOW SELF ESTEEM .  When lateness doesn’t matter because you don’t matter then perhaps your lateness communicates your low self esteem or your lack of confidence. If you think, no one will notice anyway, you are discounting your value as a human being. And why would you worry about others if you don’t have any concern for yourself. It doesn’t matter if you’re rude or inconsiderate, if you just plain don’t matter. A lack of respect for yourself inhibits your ability to respect others.

My friend Ginger had a college chum who was always late. After Ginger sat alone in one too many restaurants, she shared with me that she was going to write this person a letter and tell her she didn’t want to be friends anymore.  I knew from Ginger’s conversations that Angie was very unhappy about her weight, discouraged that no one asked her out, and because she couldn’t find a job in her field, she was working for her dad. I  suspected she wasn’t’ feeling very good about herself. I suggested to Ginger she try to meet with her friend face to face to tell her how her lateness made her feel.

They arranged to meet at restaurant where there was entertainment. Ginger arrived at the bar to watch the band.  No friend. She got up to call her. Returned, still no friend, but a very cute blond guy was in her seat.. She struck up a conversation with the cute man.  Moved in with him three days later. A year passed and she married him. Angie missed the wedding. She walked into the church an hour late.

5. SOS! NOTICE ME.  Sometimes, something or many things in life are going wrong, and it is just too horrible to say out loud. So you communicate with your tardiness.  Your lateness says: Isn’t it horrible that I’m late?  Please ask me why, so I can tell you the horrible thing I am dealing with.

I knew someone who had been attacked in her home. She was living far away from her family for the first time and had no close friends.  There was no one to share her pain with. She told us with her time use. She became habitually late. She kept everyone in our office waiting wondering whether she was all right. It was a powerful SOS repeated over and over from a life that was sinking fast. It was only when the boss sat her down and reprimanded her that the story of her ordeal came tumbling out.  The boss listened to her and recommended among other things that she share her burden with a few of us. We supported her and soon she didn’t need her silent cry of lateness to communicate any more.

6. THE BIG EGO .  Related to the need for control is the BIG EGO. The difference is that silent controllers have no assigned power and big egos do.  They feel they have the right to be late-that it comes as part of their royalty package. The big ego says with his time use, I am so important that you the little peon who is waiting must sit patiently for me to arrive. As if they should be greeted with a standing ovation and Hail Caesars. You the know the type. The big boss who keeps everyone waiting for the meeting to start.. They come sauntering in smiling, not caring about their rudeness. In fact, they may revel in it. Or they come in ranting and complaining about the big problem they had to solve or the disaster they averted before they could honor you with their presence. Only the Pope and Superman have saving super powers worth waiting for.

I remember sitting at a conference table full of coworkers, waiting for the president of the company to arrive. This happened every meeting and ended with the same ritual. He would walk through the conference room door, go over and get his doughnuts asking the female nearest him to get him coffee all the while greeting a selective few  people at he table with the same greeting. “Hey, how are you feeling?” If he had asked me that question, I would have been tempted to reply. “Miffed and insulted by your lack of consideration.” He never asked me.

7. HIDDEN ANGER .  Sometimes we leave people waiting because we hate them. Okay, “hate” may be too strong a word. Let’s say, because we are secretly unhappy with them. We may be jealous, envious, resentful or just plain not like that person. When I say this is a secret I mean these feeling may even be  a secret even from yourself. While the feeling swirls in your subconscious, you  may not even be aware that you are mad or have other negative feelings.

Perhaps you would like to think you never get mad because you are just too nice a person. Perhaps the person you leave waiting has too much power over you for it to be safe to be mad at them directly. In any case, like a child who sticks out their tongue at someone when their back is turned, when you leave a friend waiting at a restaurant by themselves, standing on a street corner, sitting in a conference room, you are acting just as childish. Again, this behavior is passive aggressive. You could be assertive and say out loud, “I have a problem.”  But it is somehow easier to show up late.

I know someone whose husband  is habitually late. She sits in the living room dressed for a cocktail party or dinner with friends wondering if he has been in a car accident. Trips to pick up one thing at Home Depot so they can finish with a project become three hour marathons of waiting while the paint hardens on the brushes. She and her children have waited for him to eat so many dinners they are now used to eating at 8:00. Her family and friends have experienced her stress and humiliation as they waited with her so now they suggest plans that don’t include him. This has led to arguments of course, but he always has an external excuse for his lateness.  In her mind the message he is sending is that his work and tasks are more important than she is. Underneath there may be a bigger message. He may be saying, “I am angry and unhappy, and I don’t know how to express it.”

Lateness does not always have a Freudian or hidden message. And you may rarely be left tapping your foot or checking your watch. But remember, time communicates. If you are walking through the door apologizing and complaining about traffic or last-minute phone calls, listen to the message you are sending.

Now you have the handbook for the silent signals of lateness.”

Always late

no matter what time i aim to be awake i am always running late, most of the time i give up on my plans as i ponder that long….

You rock – You rule

The walrus

who ever drew this is an absolute legend i love simple things and this is beyond simple i love it.

Look and feel ugly and enjoy it

This is awesome creative have no time for appearance, staying at home getting creative no time to brush the hair or get out of the pjs. Like if you agree.

Thats all folks


To masquerade in life

How different would life be if once in public we wore masquerade masks,and only take them off in the privacy of our own homes. If we were not to fear the consequences of are actions and be held back by our identities what would we become drive to, how would the human race behave i believe very differently for if no one knows who we truly are and where we come from then one is free to strive to any goal with nothing to hold us back.To hide the poverty the imperfections we are so truly judged on day-to-day life. Would we have more achievers  and less cast aways or would this become a mask for the deceitful behaviour our race is becoming known for.  A few years ago i would believe it would make us strive for more and achieve as high as we could in life, but with the way we take advantage of all we can i believe if we were to life our lives as a masquerade now we would plummet and disgrace the human race even more than we have begun to now.

Where did the Gruffalo’s child come from?

I love the Gruffalo a big ugly character other animals fear, he is more understood for being different that’s why i like him and he is CUTE. Now there is the Gruffalo’s child……how and where did she come from. Now i have had the talk about the birds and the bees, i see no mummy Gruffalo??? where did this baby come from because I’m pretty sure no stalk could carry this bundle of joy. Just a question that has been baffling my mind.